What’s the quick response?
Let’s begin by resting your head, not your hands or hips: Most likely, you’re not having a lot of sex.
According to Dr. Jill McDevitt, a resident sexologist at CalExotics, “the idea of ‘too much’ sex is typically used to shame people about the fact that they are sexual beings.”
However, the frequency of your frick-fracking may prevent you from leading a healthy, fulfilling life.
Since everyone has a different tipping point, we spoke with Dr. McDevitt and Dr. Jennifer Wider, two K-Y resident sex therapists, to find out how to recognize when you’re going overboard and how to cut back if you are.
How can you tell if something has gotten “too much”?
There is a limit; this isn’t a “Mean Girls” moment. However, that threshold differs for each individual.
As a result, your limit can differ from Cady Heron’s, Regina George’s, and so on.
Here’s how to determine whether you’ve gone over your limit.
Evaluate your emotions
It’s time to focus on yourself because what you consider “too much” ultimately depends on what feels too much to you.
Are you having too much sex, according to your gut? Then you may be.
However, if you think it’s excessive, McDevitt advises, “I would encourage you to question who or what is telling you that you should be worried about the amount of sex [you’re] having
“Is it an honest internal feeling?” she asks. Is this a discussion of [a] sex-negative upbringing?
Look for any physical adverse effects.
It’s time to look at your bits.
Although having a lot of sex won’t harm you in the long run, Wider points out that some physical symptoms could be your body warning you to cut back.
This comprises:
numbness or discomfort while chafing
pain or swelling during sexual activity due to a urinary tract infection
neck strain
Additionally, if you choose to have sex over sleep, eat lunch instead, or don’t drink enough water in between romps, you can also experience:
headaches
lightheadedness
cramps
hunger pangs
She asserts that having sex should be pleasurable and pleasant rather than harmful to the body. Just!
Go over the reasons.
Your sex drive is strong
it’s how you express your love for yourself or your partner(s);
it relieves stress
you’re trying to conceive
it’s enjoyable and makes you happy.
However, using sex as an escape mechanism is also a possibility.
It could be time to get out of bed if you’re using sex as a coping method to avoid a difficult conversation, the news that you were just fired, or financial difficulties.
If you are in a relationship,
It’s time to speak up if you’re embarrassed, overwhelmed, or disgusted by how much you and your partner are boning.
To bring this up, you can say the following: